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The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. – Proverbs 12:18

Words have such a powerful ability to bless or wound. We need to watch with
diligence what we say. The wrong words, especially at the wrong time have the
ability to hurt both those who speak and those who hear them.
Stop and think about how marvelously God has created us. The ability to verbalize is
granted only to man, who was created in the image of God. We need help in exercising
this power responsibly.

Wars have been started over words. Marriage and families have split and fractured
relationships because of words. Though the world applauds quick-witted retorts, God
tells us to be “quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger.” (James 1:19).

We need to make a conscious effort for our speaking (and listening) to come under
the control of the Holy Spirit. When positive speech patterns and habits replace
negative speech patterns and habits, we will be amazed with the increase of our joy.

Paul, writing to the Church at Ephesus reminds them, and us to “not let any
unwholesome talk come out of our mouths, but only what is helpful for building
others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians

Listen. Wait. Respond.

How many of our conflicts would dissolve or never even materialize if we:

Listen to really understand a person’s concern or complaint,
Wait till our typically wrong initial impulse passed, until we’ve prayed, until
we’ve asked clarifying questions,

And then we respond with patience, graciousness, honesty, clarity, and, if possible,

When used wisely and cautiously, words can often be the best blessings we can give
to anyone.


Religious conservatives often want their favorite issues to become the law of the
land. The left objects. “Don’t impose your morality on us,” which means the left
wants to legislate its favorite issues. Both have in common a desire to use the
government to further their own agendas.

July 30, 1619 America’s first representative assembly met in Jamestown, Virginia,
and passed laws against drunkenness, gambling, and idleness. Obviously these laws
did not have a lasting effect, did it? How did Prohibition ever turn out?

Legislation doesn’t change hearts. All the laws legislators pass can only force
obedience, often unwilling obedience. And the laws of God, all His “Thou shalts” and
“Thou shalt nots” actually provoke revolt in our hearts, like a kid defying mom’s
order not to get into the cookie jar.

The Law doesn’t change hearts; only the Gospel can. Read Romans 7. Only the goodness
of God our Savior changes hearts and produces willing obedience to God’s

That’s why the Jamestown laws couldn’t stop drinking, gambling, and idleness. And
that’s why imposing the religious views of the right or the left will not bring this
country together in a much-needed consensus on moral issues. (Dale Meyer)


When God sees an area too important to us, He withdraws His blessings in that area.
When what should be first place gets misplaced, it will be replaced.
When we refuse to pay attention, God has ways to get our attention.
God has so much for you, if only you will let Him live with you.
If you want to change your emotion, you need to change your devotion.

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